SELF-ABUSE BY PROXY

“Why does she go back to that man?” “What you mean, your friend was caught by the police?!” We all know what Mother said, “You will be known by the company you keep.” We don’t want to believe it, but it’s true. Those of us who need just one or two friends , cannot let go of one, even if they may bring us down with them. While we need to stand by our friend if they get into trouble, we have to obey all the laws and insist that our friends do the same. If they won’t and they try to drag us down too, the precious life God has given us will not remain free to help them in the future or anyone else. Our other example is that of a relationship or marriage in which one of the partners is abusive. While I do not advocate divorce, abuse is another matter. The last human sacrifice was Jesus Christ. You and/or your children must be protected. It is far better to live alone than to subject yourself and/or your children to abuse. The underlying question is, why does someone pick an abusive partner? Maybe they think they can “fix” them. However, the offender may believe they aren’t broken, so there is no need to be fixed. Perhaps, the one who is offended believes they deserve the abuse. If they were abused since childhood or witnessed the abuse of a parent, they may believe that abuse is the normal pattern of living. By choosing someone who harms the ones they claim to love, they have a partner in self-abuse. Perhaps the pain inflicted, helps the one abused to return to body awareness. They let the other person abuse them, rather than doing it themselves. Abuse by proxy. God does not want anyone harmed. He can end self-abuse by proxy through Prayer Therapy, praying specifically so God can answer specifically. In our prayer for a return to the love-of-self we had as a small child, remember the prayer therapy process, or refer back to previous posts: pray the prayer printed below 3X a day, wait on the Lord and feel his presence, and know he heard your prayer. Let us pray: “Holy Father, creator of us all, your Spirit of Life lives within us. Holy is your name and the name of the Spirit within. Forgive us when we dislike the body you have given us to anchor our soul to Earth for this short stay of ours. Sometimes we want to run away from our body and the emotions experienced by it. Some of us have strong bodies, some are weak, and some are damaged by many events of this world. It is still the shelter for our soul, and for that we thank you, than you, thank you. Help us make peace with our body, our intellect, our emotions, our personality, and our soul this very day, that we may serve you with renewed energy and purpose. Forgive us when we have disliked that gift of life you have given us. Touch us with your warm and loving hand. In the name of Jesus, your son, our redeemer, we pray, Amen” Doris Copyright 2012 Doris Gaines Rapp “God gives us stories that testify to His love. Let me tell you mine.” Please pass this link to a friend.